"I'll take care of the kids," he said.
Now, my husband has always been an equal parenting partner.
When the kids were little, he took paternity leave the moment I left to return to work, so the kids would have an extra couple of months at home with a parent.
I don't hesitate for a moment to spend a weekend with girlfriends in a different city. The kids stay home with their dad.
But the idea that he would dress them, give them medicine, oversee brushing their teeth (a job he oversees literally every night, but we're talking about morning toothbrushing here, people!)...it makes me nervous.
Why Getting the Kids Ready to Leave the House Causes Extra Angst
My husband is a capable human being. He selects tasteful, appropriate clothing for the weather and the outing. The kids are well-trained in their routines, so he really is basically just supervising.
But my concern is not the kids.
I question, in my mind, whether it's fair that I get dressed in peace, while my husband's routine of putting on socks and shoes is interrupted to brush a bit of hair or to prod along a slow mover.
(I hear you, women everywhere, thinking, "why the heck? Her husband is getting the kids dressed - and she's complaining?!?"
Well, no. I am NOT complaining. I would call it inappropriately obsessing. Yes, there is therapy for that!)
How to Change Your Thinking So You Can Let the Other Parent Take Over
It's obviously fair for Dad to get the kids ready. Parenting is so much easier - and better for the kids and the adults - when done in a team.
But as a mom, I feel like I should prepare my kids for the day.
So I took a minute, scolded myself for my irrational response, and considered what I had done.
My husband's been working long hours, so while he definitely partners with me on household chores, I had washed, dried, and supervised the putting away of the laundry that the kids were wearing.
I had purchased the toothbrush and toothpaste, and the container that organizes those tools.
I selected, bought, wrapped, and set out the birthday present that we were bringing.
I had scheduled the outing with another mom.
I had already done a lot of the getting ready, so my husband was only taking over a little part. I had zero cause to feel guilty.
P.S. I composed this blog during the traumatic incident.
In the end, the "getting ready" part went downhill and my husband had to call for my backup. I laughed and laughed at him, and explained that I was about to blog about how wonderful he was, but in the interest of honesty, would have to add that he did not succeed in doing this part alone!
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