tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post7681717579868353706..comments2024-03-20T02:17:35.429-05:00Comments on Giftie Etcetera: Your Values, My KidsGiftie Etceterahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11353862141419399333noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-4612260447580654292015-04-10T08:46:01.210-05:002015-04-10T08:46:01.210-05:00That is a tough question. Everyone believes differ...That is a tough question. Everyone believes different things and it can be difficult to teach your own morals to children once they get older. We can only do our best to teach our children the best morals and beliefs that we believe in. <br />Thanks for linking #LetKidsBeKidsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00011783979183675609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-66109482601066819202015-04-08T13:55:50.533-05:002015-04-08T13:55:50.533-05:00My oldest is 15, so this is something that I have ...My oldest is 15, so this is something that I have thought about for quite a few years! I also want my kids to treat everyone with respect, and it has been hard at times for them to process someone who they respect overall but does things they know are wrong. (Like mistreating someone in front of the kids, lying, etc.) It's hard to explain exactly without writing paragraphs! We have to talk about how people aren't perfect, that we can love the person without agreeing with them, things like that.<br /><br />We live more isolated (in Congo & an isolated area of the Congo) so we aren't exposed to a lot of current things- like the Duggars. All I know about them is that they have a lot of kids! But living in another culture helps you talk about culture and beliefs, and respecting another culture and differences without believing it yourself.<br /><br />For the most part we are going to be considerate & not offensive, but there are times when you have to speak up. For example, we will dress more modestly than we believe is necessary so that we don't cause offense. But on issues like domestic abuse, we will disagree with the culture and say that it is wrong. (Here it is perfectly acceptable, even thought needed for a husband to hit his wife- or wives.)<br /><br />More than teaching my kids WHAT to believe, I want to teach them basic principles to use in life and base decisions on that. I hope that I can always provide a safe place for them to talk about those things and think them through. And I hope that they will know they are loved even if they decide on different beliefs than I have.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12192064538924964308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-42607768195350307572015-04-07T19:43:11.028-05:002015-04-07T19:43:11.028-05:00I don't think I said I was tolerant. For examp...I don't think I said I was tolerant. For example, I have zero tolerance for racism or sexism. Zero. And since the intolerance of people based on their own hatred comes AFTER they hate, I'd say it's casting the second stone. <br /><br />Still, we, in my household, don't STONE or harm racist people. As an attorney, I even have had opportunity to protect the First Amendment right to free speech (even hateful speech that I disagree with). I leave if such speech occurs in front of the children, but sometimes, they won't be able to leave. I expect them to stand up for right, but in a polite way.<br /><br />None of that is the same as stoning, which in biblical times (and some places on modern Earth still), meant serious injury or death.<br /><br />I do not subscribe to the death penalty for being a bad person.Giftie Etceterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11353862141419399333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-72268086707259163222015-04-07T19:41:29.082-05:002015-04-07T19:41:29.082-05:00Thankfully, regardless of outside pressure, what h...Thankfully, regardless of outside pressure, what happens inside the home is still the major determinant of how children behave outside of itt. <br /><br />Generally I find that explaining WHY you think the way you do about something rather than just saying do this, say that etc, is very effective. Even better is getting the child themselves to articulate why they think the way they do. <br /><br />Then, at some point you just have to trust that your children will do the right thing, and let them know that you trust that they will. <br /><br />There is nothing wrong with a soapbox. "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." (Edmund Burke)<br /><br />From the sounds of it, I think you are all okay.Theanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-20882305995844191712015-04-07T19:38:07.036-05:002015-04-07T19:38:07.036-05:00The Duggars are certainly nice in the sense of tre...The Duggars are certainly nice in the sense of treating each other with kindness. I worry about how they treat others, but the kids never see that. Giftie Etceterahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11353862141419399333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-28313508198705240152015-04-07T15:05:49.347-05:002015-04-07T15:05:49.347-05:00Parenting is hard. We all do the best we can and p...Parenting is hard. We all do the best we can and pray for the best for our kiddos. Praying over their lives and that God will lead them to be all that He created them to be. Starla J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12869424924306740520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-21096749243522803772015-04-07T14:54:14.799-05:002015-04-07T14:54:14.799-05:00You can't stand on a soap box and say how tole...You can't stand on a soap box and say how tolerant you are while talking bout bad people. That's casting the first stone, don't you think?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-44816349113269835712015-04-07T11:39:50.956-05:002015-04-07T11:39:50.956-05:00The Duggars are NOT nice people. They are full of ...The Duggars are NOT nice people. They are full of hate. Please tell you children that nice people do not hate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-863557816383416771.post-36084094271049880352015-04-07T08:38:36.648-05:002015-04-07T08:38:36.648-05:00Passing on a lesson learned – the road of parentho...Passing on a lesson learned – the road of parenthood, is a bumpy one. The highs, are high, but the lows are equally low. All we can do is hang on, and trust that somewhere inside our precious children, those lessons are alive and well learned. Hang in there.KariPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02679296733422641607noreply@blogger.com